What do you do when you have to work with someone who you think know doesn’t like you?
Multiple Choice:
a) approach said person; slap her on the cheek with a glove and challenge her to a duel to the death! After all, the 2 of you simply can NOT co-exist in such an environment
b) approach said person with a menacing look; shake her, then grovel at her feet; burst into tears and cry “why don’t you like me!!? WHY???”
c) grin and bear it. You are a professional. You can peacefully co-exist with said person. You don’t need to be liked by everyone (right?). You …ARE.. A …PROFESSIONAL!
I know answer c) is the best choice, but in my head I know that I would probably like to enact the b) scenario. I am aware that not everyone will like me, but so far I’ve never really encountered anyone that didn’t really (that gives away how youngish I am!!). I’m sure the search committee reflects on how a potential candidate will get along with the rest of the department/office. Group dynamics is really important, but I have to learn to shake it off and not care so much what others think about me. (Although I’m not sure how this would work since part of the tenure process involves feedback from your colleagues about your performance). My fear is that personal relations might cloud such feedback. If colleague A is hostile toward me will that impact my review? I worry about these things; perhaps unnecessarily. However, a representative from the union remarked that it wasn’t so difficult to achieve tenure (for librarians) but it depends on who you know on the tenure committee! What a disaster!
